Why is it totally okay for people to say on their little grindr-tagged photos “This guy was being a creep/is ugly so I blocked him” (especially when they’re not being a creep, just saying “hello”), but the second somebody is spotted saying “not into/attracted to _______”, they’re publicly crucified as racist, homophobic twats? Also, if there’s something you’re not turned on by, isn’t it better to say that up front rather than having a long conversation which ends with something along the lines of “‘Want to meet up and play around?’ ‘No thanks, I’m not turned on by Latino people.’”? That just wastes everybody’s time.
Say you’re going to a potluck, and the host asks you to bring a veggie dish. Now, you detest broccoli. You can’t stand it. So, you don’t put it on the dish, allowing for more room for more delicious vegetables. Once you get there, the host asks “Where’s the broccoli? It’s a vegetable dish, isn’t it? Why do you hate broccoli so much?” You respond with “I just don’t care for that one vegetable - I have nothing against the vegetable, I’m just not going to put something on here that I don’t like.”
Just because you state a preference doesn’t mean you are a racist asshole. You just don’t want to hurt their feelings later on when they think they have a chance at a full relationship when you’re still just not really attracted to them physically.
And if you are one of the people that call them out on saying something like that, don’t turn around and say “eww you’re ugly” to another guy just because he’s older or overweight or not your type.
All of you who do this make me ashamed to be associated with you.
